What is a miscariage like?

First of all if you are going through a miscariage, I am so so sorry for your loss and if I could I would give you a big ol' hug! No matter how far along you are in your pregnancy,  pregnancy loss is always devastating. I can only speak from my personal experience because I am not a medical professional. But I have had two miscariages and have done lots of research.

I remember how many questions that I had the first time I miscarried. I was scared, confused, and grieving. I was also very over whelmed by how much information that I was having to take in. But most of all I felt very alone. Well I am here to tell you that you are not alone! Many many women go through this every day. I myself have had two miscariages, bot around 8 weeks.

But I'm here to give you the skinny on what a miscariage is really like and what you can expect. For me the first sign of miscariage has always been bleeding and not just spotting or slight bleeding like the start of a period, but full on bright red, aunt flow, with clotting. Once I noticed the clotting I knew I was definitly miscarrying. After that its just a waiting game.

With my first miscariage I had no idea when I was passing my baby. I'm pretty sure that it happend slowly because I has pretty bad cramping and lower back pain for about 8 days and clotting the entire time. But with my second I knew the day I started passing my baby. My cramps became much much worse and my clotting got pretty heavy. And the entire time I was extremely fatigued from the time I started bleeding to the time I stopped. I think this is a combination of both grief and the physical tole that the m/c was taking on my body.

At the end of the day a pregnancy loss is never going to be a walk in the park. The farther along you are the harder its going to be on your body. For some people it will be just like a normal period and for others it will be hard labor. Make sure to get medical attention either way. You have to make sure things go smoothly and safely.

Once again I am very sorry for your loss and if you need help, someone to talk to, or anything at all feel free to comment and I will help in whatever way I can. Remember you are not alone and you DO NOT have to go through this alone.